Monday, December 27, 2010

AY Baseball Registration

Pre-registration for the 2011 Jewish Community Little League season (boys grades 3 – 8) is now underway. Detailed information concerning registration as well as the registration and liability waiver forms may be downloaded by click the links above or obtained by e-mailing David Kirschner at

The deadline for submitting the forms and payment (or authorization to bill shul account) is Sunday, January 16. After then, registration will be open to non-shul members and registration will be on a first-come first-served basis. A date for uniform fittings will be scheduled once open registration has been completed.

Dr. David Pelcovitz - Three Keys to Building a Relationship With Your Child

On Moetz'ae Shabbos, December 25th, Dr. David Pelcovitz, one of the foremost child psychologist gave a lecture to over 500 men and women at the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills. You can download the shiur here.

Dr. Pelcovitz is the son of the former long time Rabbi of the White Shul in Far Rockaway, Rabbi Raphael Pelcovitz and his lectures are filled with relevant Divrei Torah, psychological insights and amazing stories that drive home his message.

The lecture was sponsored by P’TACH, a nonprofit organization whose mission is to provide the best possible Jewish and secular education to children who have been disenfranchised because of learning differences.

Find the Right Balance between Love and Limits.

Chazal say the key to good parenting is the left hand pushes away while the right hand brings closer. The left hand represents limits and the right hand represents love.

In our times, our general society is relaxing limits and we are affected by those changes. As an example Dr. Pelcovitz points out that the majority of teenagers surveyed in certain Orthodox communities feel that their parents should put more filters and controls on their Internet usage.

On the love side, Dr. Pelcovitz points out that the overwhelming majority of parents want to be better parents. As he put it, "A mother can only be as happy as her unhappiest child".

One area in which we can improve is giving our children our undivided attention. He speaks about email voice, which is the tone you detect when the person on the other side of a phone call is dealing with their email. We all have many distractions but we need to try to communicate with undivided attention with our children on a regular basis.

Keeping Perspective

The secular research on "mentsch making" says the number one predictor is how we talk about others with whom we disagree. We need to teach by modeling how we respect those we disagree with.

We have to realize that children are constantly absorbing lessons from our actions. And these lessons go very deep. Keeping perspective is a key component on good parenting.

Appreciating Your Child's Uniqueness

Dr. Pelcovitz points out that families have bumper stickers such as "Lakewood or Bust", "Ivy League Forever" or "Chesed or Else". However, we often have children who don't exactly fit into our vision. It's very important that we see our children as they are and bless them for who they are.

Taking that a step further we not only have to recognize them for who they are but we have to be grateful for who they are.

There are just some highlights and we want to strongly encourage that you download and listen to the wisdom that Dr. Pelcovitz is teaching.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Rabbi Welcher on Preparing for Tefillah - mp3

Rabbi Welcher on Preparing for Tefillah - mp3 can be downloaded here.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Reva Esther Robin a"h Memorial Service

Last night was the memorial service for Reva Esther Robin who was killed in a fatal car accident in New Hampshire on 14 Elul 5770.

Reva Esther was known for her chesed and in the last few years of her life, she dedicated herself to help people who passed away and did not have frum relatives to properly take care of their burials and perform zechuyos (merits) such as saying kaddish. She often used her own money for this purpose as well as for the mitzvah of obtaining a burial plot for those who otherwise would not have one. In one case she saved a father and son who died on the same day from cremation by convincing the family to arrange a Jewish burial.

At the service, Rabbi Herschel Welcher told of all the amazing things that happened after she died that allowed her to be buried on the day after she passed away in the absence of her closest relatives being available to make the arrangements. Rabbi Matis Blum also discussed that because she was often consulting Rabbis with her questions regarding these mitzvos her phone book was found and the Rabbis were contacted immediately after her passing.

Rabbi Tzvi Hebel from Lakewood, the author of a sefer called "The Neshamah Should Have an Aliyah," also spoke as this was the sefer that inspired Reva Esther a”h to start a Gemach for the purpose of doing mitzvos in memory of deceased individuals who did not have frum family.

Reva Esther was one of those amazing people who accomplished so much in her lifetime. She knew what it was like to have a small support network and she focused her chesed on helping Neshamos who had no one to support them after their passing.

The Aliyah Neshama Gemach has been set up in her name for people who do not have any family to honor their memory. The gemach will take on zechusim (merits) to elevate the neshama.

If you know of someone who needs their efforts please email with the deceased's Hebrew name, father's name and yahrtzeit date. If you would like to volunteer, seen an email to You can make a tax deductible contribution to Congregation Ahavas Yisroel, and write in the memo, Fund for Reva Esther A"H. Checks can be mailed to Congregation Ahavas Yisroel, PO Box 670503, Station C, Kew Gardens Hills, NY 11367.

The memorial service for this amazing woman can be downloaded here.